Sometimes the condom falls off

I really want to write a book with that title. It is fantastic in my mind, all practical and to the point. Yes sex is fun, yes it is messy and oh yeah, wait til you are ready. I want to be able to define ready but it is such a variable thing for so many people. I also don't want it to be all preachy and technical. I want it to basically be like the conversations that I used to have with my younger cousins. They would ask me questions and I would answer to the best of my ability and really hold nothing back. It is how I want the conversation to go with my son. I want him to know he can ask me anything he wants and I will answer, no matter how "embarassing". It really shouldn't be embarassing, I wish kids could be more matter of fact about their bodies. I want to call a penis a penis and a vagina a vagina. Apparently, it would actually help keep kids safe. If a family calls a vagina a flower and the daycare people hear that someone touched a "flower" they won't think much of it if they don't know what terms a family uses. If you teach your child to call a spade a spade, then anyone would know just what the child is talking about and abuse can be stopped a lot sooner. I also want to get older kids/teens to understand that just because everyone else is saying they are having sex or think that you should be, doesn't mean that you have to follow them. It is something that can be fun, but you don't want to do it too soon or have to deal with any regrets later in life. It's just as much a part of life as getting your driver's license or your 1st job, some get it sooner than others and sometimes it isn't until you are grown up completely. Life doesn't have a time stamped on it for when you "should" do something. Take it when it comes. If it is meant to happen at an early (16 or 17) age, then that is fine, but think it through and do it for yourself, not because someone else expects you to.